I’m a 38-year-old menopausal woman. Two years ago, I had a complete hysterectomy during surgery for an ovarian cyst. I went from being a young-ish, healthy, energetic woman with predictable cycles and a decent sex drive and no shortage of natural lubrication to…
Well, something entirely different. Continue reading “What it’s like to lose your sex drive”
Let’s do a little imagination exercise and see where it takes us.
Pretend with me, for a moment, that nobody owes you anything.
Are you clear on those words, though?
You can’t come up with caveats or loopholes. Continue reading “If nobody owed you anything”
Making decisions is a difficult and tiring thing you have to do all day long. Let’s talk about why decision making is difficult, and how to make it less difficult. But first, let’s talk about how to evaluate decisions. Continue reading “Tools to improve your decision making process”
To be honest, still learning.
1: Everything is okay, even when it’s not okay.
We are okay. We are better than okay. We can breathe in, we can let go, we can live, we can let ourselves be not okay or okay. We can move through it all flowing or resisting. We can get through the expected and unexpected. All of it is life. All of it is a gift, maybe even a blessing. Continue reading “19 things I learned in 2019”
What’s the opposite of gratitude?
Ingratitude, thanklessness, or unappreciation?
Those states are defined by what they are not: INgratitude, thankLESSness, UNappreciation. They indicate a lack: what’s missing is gratitude. Ingratitude is not the opposite of gratitude, but a state caused by the lack of it. (As thirst is not the opposite of water, but a state indicating the lack of water.) Continue reading “Gratitude vs ambition”
My mom used to have muscle pain in her shoulders. Usually one shoulder at a time.
She’d walk around rolling her neck and shrugging and getting us to massage the crunchy spot.
Finally it would work itself out.
It took hours or it took days. Continue reading “All the strong women”
I start my day early, with a run.
Then I proceed through my typical morning routine: meditate, read, journal, and drink the beautiful coffee. This peaceful time is punctuated by kids wandering in, asking questions about breakfast (Yes, you have to eat it, same as every day) and chores (Yes, you have to do them) and school (Yes, you have to go) and friends (No, you can’t invite five friends for a sleepover…ever). Continue reading “Is freelancing worth it?”
Zeke has a friend coming for a sleepover. This is a common occurrence, no big deal. However, when I mentioned that this sleepover would be a screen-free evening, doom and gloom filled the air. Continue reading “Through a glass darkly”