The women don’t look at me

The women don’t look at me anymore, Don’t meet my eyes, Offer a smile, acknowledgement, glance of understanding, Hello, you are like me. Hello. This has stopped. Maybe it’s because of how I walk, or dress. Maybe it’s because of where I live. Maybe it’s the bitch resting on my face, the cultivated guard against […]

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What is good SEO?

I learned SEO against my will. What I wanted was to write. And then, I wanted to make a little money as a writer. Then I wanted to build a career from writing. Writing requires zero knowledge of SEO. And back in the early blogging days, writing was enough to ‘make it’ as a blogger. […]

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Every light in the house is on

We did marriage counseling for a painful and pointless six-week stint and I thought it would help. I thought, “Aha, now that we are really talking about things with someone else, I won’t get confused, I’ll won’t get sidetracked, I’ll have help saying what I need to say, and he will get it! He’ll really […]

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Knife knife knife

Anger feels powerful. Self-righteousness feels good. Righteous anger? It’s addictive. No wonder so many of us want to live in that particular emotional combination. I love it. I can work myself right out of a big bad sad by ranting at the injustice of [fill in the blank]. I’m so good at those one-sided conversations, […]

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10 quotes about writing that make me feel like I can write a book this afternoon if I really try

“We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.”― Anais Nin “We have a habit in writing articles published in scientific journals to make the work as finished as possible, to cover up all the tracks, to not worry about the blind alleys or describe how you had the wrong idea first, and […]

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3 ways social media has power over you

As I see it, social media platforms exert three kinds of power over you (and whatever you create): The power of influence, and The power of access, and The power of distraction. That’s big power. 1️⃣ The power of influence The more people who have spaces where they can share their thoughts and experiences, the […]

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Zero-sum conversations

In a zero-sum game, there are Players who compete for Rewards, and there’s a finite amount of Rewards available. The more Rewards one person gets, the less there is available for others. At the end of the game, the people with the most Rewards are the Winners. (Why am I arbitrarily capitalizing things? Don’t know.) […]

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