Is having a plan helpful? Not always.

One fateful December several years ago, my friend Linds and I came across the life-changing magic we needed.  It was not tidying up.  It was a planner.  The perfect planner, in which we would — with the perfect stickers, highlighters, pens, and washi — make the perfect plans. The perfect plans, we knew, would carry us on a wave […]

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How to accept yourself

Love yourself. Accept yourself. Everybody says you should. Every positive-thought guru has a set of affirmations for you. Every self-help book says it starts here. But how the hell do you do it? Look at who you have been Start by looking at the versions of self you’ve been before. All these versions of your past […]

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When it’s time to stop holding on

For 15 years, I was a worship leader in the evangelical Christian church. I followed in my Mom’s footsteps. She played piano and sang, and we were always in small churches, so she became the default worship leader. She loved it. I learned piano, too. I was singing solo Easter specials from the time I […]

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How to listen to your intuition

Intuition is important. Listening to intuition is a skill we have largely ignored/lost and which we could benefit from relearning. But how to do it? How do we listen to our intuition? There is no set of instructions that works for everyone. When you try to give instructions, you sound… Well, kind of stupid. At […]

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The 3 most important lessons I’ve learned as a parent of 4

I’m writing this for the young mothers and fathers and for the bright-eyed soon-to-be parents. These are the most important, helpful, meaningful, actually understandable lessons I’ve learned as a parent. Please note, though: I’m no parenting expert. First, experience does not equal expertise. Second, I’m still deep in this mess. Our four kids are still […]

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