These are strange times. Income can disappear, of course, anytime. Even regular, predictable, stable-seeming income. But that’s usually an individual or regional phenomenon. This is a strange time in that, for many people, in many places, all at once, sources of income are gone.
It is a dark and difficult thing to go through.
My income is not drastically affected right now.
But we have—as a family—lived through this situation in other times. Not too long ago. Lately enough to remember the pain and anxiety fresh and raw. (One journal entry from that time: “We have $30 in our account. We ate rice for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.”) I also used to do a lot of writing work for finance companies (ironic, I know) so I’ve learned a bit about how some things work… not exactly insider/expert knowledge, but stuff that is often not common knowledge. Continue reading “19 things to remember when your income disappears”
There’s a certain type of energy I want to talk about: the mother energy.
There’s a shadow side to this mother energy and it is deep and it is strong and it is destructive.
This is a tough thing to look at, in yourself. Tough to see it.
We have this ability and energy and drive in us to nurture, to teach, to protect. We use this energy to bring our babies (our creations of all kinds) into our world, and to keep them safe until they are ready to go form their own worlds. Continue reading “Love is not safe”
I’m a 38-year-old menopausal woman. Two years ago, I had a complete hysterectomy during surgery for an ovarian cyst. I went from being a young-ish, healthy, energetic woman with predictable cycles and a decent sex drive and no shortage of natural lubrication to…
Well, something entirely different. Continue reading “What it’s like to lose your sex drive”
Let’s do a little imagination exercise and see where it takes us.
Pretend with me, for a moment, that nobody owes you anything.
Are you clear on those words, though?
You can’t come up with caveats or loopholes. Continue reading “If nobody owed you anything”
Making decisions is a difficult and tiring thing you have to do all day long. Let’s talk about why decision making is difficult, and how to make it less difficult. But first, let’s talk about how to evaluate decisions. Continue reading “Tools to improve your decision making process”
To be honest, still learning.
1: Everything is okay, even when it’s not okay.
We are okay. We are better than okay. We can breathe in, we can let go, we can live, we can let ourselves be not okay or okay. We can move through it all flowing or resisting. We can get through the expected and unexpected. All of it is life. All of it is a gift, maybe even a blessing. Continue reading “19 things I learned in 2019”
What’s the opposite of gratitude?
Ingratitude, thanklessness, or unappreciation?
Those states are defined by what they are not: INgratitude, thankLESSness, UNappreciation. They indicate a lack: what’s missing is gratitude. Ingratitude is not the opposite of gratitude, but a state caused by the lack of it. (As thirst is not the opposite of water, but a state indicating the lack of water.) Continue reading “Gratitude vs ambition”
My mom used to have muscle pain in her shoulders. Usually one shoulder at a time.
She’d walk around rolling her neck and shrugging and getting us to massage the crunchy spot.
Finally it would work itself out.
It took hours or it took days. Continue reading “All the strong women”