Being able to consistently control or stifle your anger is not a sign that you’re emotionally healthy.
It’s not a sign that you don’t have much of a temper, or that you don’t care, or that you’re super mature.
It’s a sign that you’ve learned, one way or another, to exercise great restraint over how you outwardly express your anger.
Sometimes this restraint is good.
It’s… Continue reading
Part 1. Spend your normal amount of time on social media today.
Right before you go to sleep, note your feelings about humanity on a scale of 1 – 10, with 1 being “would exterminate most” and 10 being “humanity is wonderful.”
YOU HAVE TO BE HONEST OR THIS WON’T WORK.
You can’t mark down what you wish you felt, or what you want to feel, or… Continue reading
We seek approval.
(See here and here and here and here.)
We often seek approval at the expense of connection:
- I do something that Person A will approve, meaning that Person B will not approve
- I identify as part of THIS group, and that ruins my chances (mostly) of connecting with people in THAT group
- I pursue the approval of
Dear people writing open letters:
We all know that your open letters are not really letters to the “designated recipients.”
We all know that you’re really writing to us, the public, the masses, the mindless scrollers of newsfeed loops, the social media followers, and that you have thoughts. Opinions. Valuable opinions to share about this latest thing, this story, this whatever-the-hell happened.
And you… Continue reading
Once you see that a system is just a system, everything changes.
Once you see that the system is a man-made structure, an organization with a certain order and a certain set of priorities imposed upon reality rather than reality itself, you can’t unsee that.
You can’t trust a system again, ever, 100%.
You always have this knowing, back of your mind.
A hum, a… Continue reading
I have this urge to write first-person things in the plural.
“We really think that…”
Who is we?
There is no we.
It’s just me here. It’s just me responding to the email. It’s just me setting up the meeting. It’s just me answering a question. It’s just me writing a post. It’s just me.
So this WE thing…
Is this the Royal We?
What… Continue reading
I don’t want to feel alone as a way of life.
But sometimes feeling alone can be good.
Wanted or unwanted, the feeling of aloneness can help us be more creative. It can help us break out of a rut. It can help us leave the pack behind. It can help us start to figure out who we really are.
Feeling alone can force you to find
I go through life, for better or for worse, with myself at the center of it.
I don’t know how any of us can break out of that perspective, the individual perspective, the individual will, the separation of me and not you, of I and not us.
Perhaps that lesson —unity— is the lesson all of humanity must learn before we can move on to anything better than… Continue reading