Fear is a primary motivation for a lot of our behaviors.
Sometimes that’s good. Fear is a functional response, and it serves a purpose.
The problem is that fear – this important, built-in alert system— has no off setting. That’s good, because you can’t always predict danger, and you need your alert system to be on when threats arise unexpectedly. (After all, if you know a threat is… Continue reading
If you’re wanting to be happier, to regain control of your life, you’ve got to quit adding to the junk pile.
The junk pile is the opposite of the real You.
And if you want more joy, more power, and more freedom, you need less junk and more You.
You figure out, of all the inputs in your life, what’s feeding the real… Continue reading
Nothing is really neutral.
Every input or output of your life is influencing you one way or another.
However, some of the items have such negligible influence that messing around with them is a waste of energy.
You’re not going to feel their effect, not very much, maybe not for a long while.
There is a time and a place for assessing and messing… Continue reading
If you feel like your life is out of control, try this:
Step 1: Take inventory
To understand what is actually happening in your life – which is a step you need to take in order to take control of what is happening in your life – take inventory. Do this first, before you make any changes. Until you take inventory, you don’t know what you need to change… Continue reading
Priming is a psychological term which Daniel Kahneman discusses in his book Thinking, Fast and Slow:
Another major advance in our understanding of memory was the discovery that priming is not restricted to concepts and words. You cannot know this from conscious experience, of course, but you must accept the alien idea that your actions and your emotions can be primed by events of which you are… Continue reading
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The real You is always there.
It may be buried under layers of junk.
It may be you’re excavating, tossing out junk and reconnecting with your real Self.
Wherever you are in the process, the operational you is a combination of the real You and the junk.
How you’re… Continue reading