Sing your little songs

I used to go out to the edge of the yard where we had a tire swing hanging from a huge old oak tree. It felt far away from everyone, and I would swing and make up songs for hours.

It seemed like hours, all alone, the lift and fall of the swing, the almost dizzy feeling, the disconnect, and the singing.

One day I heard our sweet… Continue reading

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Security people and freedom people

It’s one thing to be a little crazed because of your unique creative inner self.

It’s another entirely to go crazy because someone else’s going-doing-scheming-dreaming-unpredictability-inner burn sent you there.

You want to maintain stability and guard your own creative space while also allowing this important person in your life to have freedom, encouragement, and support.

Let’s start with two ground rules.

1. The fact that someone in

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Quit being support staff

There are a lot of support needs in life. That’s great. We all need and help each other.

What’s not great is when the support needs turn you into support staff. The needs take all your time. They come first in the priority list. And your core activities, the things that are you and that you do for yourself, get shoved to last place which, inevitably, becomes not at all… Continue reading

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Why I try to sound important

I have this urge to write first-person things in the plural.

“We really think that…”

Who is we?
There is no we.

It’s just me here. It’s just me responding to the email. It’s just me setting up the meeting. It’s just me answering a question. It’s just me writing a post. It’s just me.

So this WE thing…

Is this the Royal We?
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It’s okay to feel alone

I don’t want to feel alone as a way of life.

But sometimes feeling alone can be good.

Wanted or unwanted, the feeling of aloneness can help us be more creative. It can help us break out of a rut. It can help us leave the pack behind. It can help us start to figure out who we really are.

Feeling alone can force you to find

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