There is a pattern in many of my failures, my unsuccessful attempts at… whatever: I got too complicated. I created too many rules. I overwhelmed myself because the mental effort of remembering and following and tinkering with and optimizing and applying the rules was too much. The complication depleted my energy and intellectual capacity. I used up my power managing a complex system rather than doing the thing I wanted… Continue reading
Signs that the real You is buried and needs excavating:
▢ lack of joy in the daily processes of life, or any processes, or even achievements. (Relief is maybe the emotion you feel when “something good” happens, but you’ve kind of lost touch with joy as a real sensation in… Continue reading
Simple rules help you do what you want to do (like form a new habit, or reach a goal).
Here’s how I come up with simple rules:
- Figure out what I want to do. (This is usually the most difficult part.)
- Figure out the ONE key action that will help me do what I want to do. (Sometimes this is so obvious it’s painful.)
- Figure out how
People crave simplicity.
Well, I crave simplicity. Maybe you crave complexity. I don’t know.
I do know that simple rules we set for ourselves can help us succeed when we might otherwise fail.
For example, I have tried off and on for the last 5 years to get into a regular exercise routine. I’ve had sporadic success. I’ll get on a streak, be consistent for a week… Continue reading
Much of your stress starts with either lack of a plan or a bad plan.
Lack of a plan means that you have no (known, valid) reason to say no. Requests, demands, suggestions, obligations, interruptions come at you. You stutter and stammer and end up obligating yourself to 157 things you don’t want to do.
But without a plan, you have no direction. You have not claimed… Continue reading