Make a better plan

Much of your stress starts with either lack of a plan or a bad plan.

Lack of a plan means that you have no (known, valid) reason to say no. Requests, demands, suggestions, obligations, interruptions come at you. You stutter and stammer and end up obligating yourself to 157 things you don’t want to do.

But without a plan, you have no direction. You have not claimed… Continue reading

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The price of action

There is a difference between striving for excellence and striving for perfection. The first is attainable, gratifying, and healthy. The second is unattainable, frustrating, and neurotic. It is also a terrible waste of time.

– Edwin Bliss
Imperfect progress realized is better than perfection imagined.

A perfectly imagined work of art is useless until it exists outside of your head. And outside of your head it won’t be… Continue reading

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Foundational desires

This was a Poet –
It is That
Distills amazing sense
From Ordinary Meanings

– Emily Dickinson
What is the real reason that you want something?

If you distill each of your wants to the “the essential meaning or most important aspect,” you’ll get to something important: the foundational desires, the simple, core-deep basis of each want/need/impulse. The desire that’s coming from the real You

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The real reason that you are afraid to begin

“Waiting for the right time” is not a real thing.

It is a half-assed way of saying that you are afraid to begin.

Why are you afraid to begin?

I see a hundred hands going up, a hundred voices saying, “Now hold on just a minute, that’s not what I mean at all…”

And then you’re telling me about how you’re halfway through school, or you have a… Continue reading

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