Sing your little songs

I used to go out to the edge of the yard where we had a tire swing hanging from a huge old oak tree. It felt far away from everyone, and I would swing and make up songs for hours.

It seemed like hours, all alone, the lift and fall of the swing, the almost dizzy feeling, the disconnect, and the singing.

One day I heard our sweet… Continue reading

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Security people and freedom people

It’s one thing to be a little crazed because of your unique creative inner self.

It’s another entirely to go crazy because someone else’s going-doing-scheming-dreaming-unpredictability-inner burn sent you there.

You want to maintain stability and guard your own creative space while also allowing this important person in your life to have freedom, encouragement, and support.

Let’s start with two ground rules.

1. The fact that someone in

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Quit being support staff

There are a lot of support needs in life. That’s great. We all need and help each other.

What’s not great is when the support needs turn you into support staff. The needs take all your time. They come first in the priority list. And your core activities, the things that are you and that you do for yourself, get shoved to last place which, inevitably, becomes not at all… Continue reading

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Ways to say No

No.
No, thank you.
Thanks, but no thanks.
That sounds lovely, but no.
Not right now.
Not for me.
It’s not an option.
I can’t.
I won’t be able to.
It won’t work for me.
I have a conflict.
I have plans.
That’s a negative.
I’ll have to pass.
I have other things planned for that time.
My project list is already full for the month/year.
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Some guidelines

Pursue growth consciously and continuously.

Read all the time (it creates your internal landscape).

Write every day.

Simplify all that can be simplified. Use focus and simplicity to keep what matters most front and center. Also maybe to intimidate people a little bit. But don’t be an asshole.

Honesty is the price you pay for freedom. Pay it.

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