Anger lesson #2

Anger itself is not a problem. Nope.

Anger is often connected to unpleasant outbursts, to yelling and screaming and cursing at people, to heated arguments, to fights, to conflicts both verbal and physical, to abuse, to violence.

But anger is not the problem.

Anger is a feeling. It is not bad; it is not good; it just is.

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Anger lesson #1

Being able to consistently control or stifle your anger is not a sign that you’re emotionally healthy.

It’s not a sign that you don’t have much of a temper, or that you don’t care, or that you’re super mature.

It’s a sign that you’ve learned, one way or another, to exercise great restraint over how you outwardly express your anger.

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It’s okay to feel alone

I don’t want to feel alone as a way of life.

But sometimes feeling alone can be good.

Wanted or unwanted, the feeling of aloneness can help us be more creative. It can help us break out of a rut. It can help us leave the pack behind. It can help us start to figure out who we really are.

Feeling alone can force you to find

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When you feel ragey

There’s angry, and then there’s ragey.

You know what I mean.

Anger is one of those, I don’t know, normal, everyday emotions. It shows up as a more-or-less predictable experience: frustration, irritation, hanger. Nothing you can’t handle. Maybe you snap or gripe or get a little testy. But it’s (usually) nothing that gets out of hand.

That’s your everyday anger.

Then there’s ragey.

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If you are strong, you will be misunderstood

…[it is] everyone’s story, every last one of us could have done more, a creation or two more than we have done, and while it is our own fault, it is not all our own fault, and so I still feel rage at the cowardice of our time which has ground down all of us into the mediocre compromises of what had been once our light-filled passion to stand erect… Continue reading

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