Help always wanted

Quit being support staff

There are a lot of support needs in life. That’s great. We all need and help each other.

What’s not great is when the support needs turn you into support staff. The needs take all your time. They come first in the priority list. And your core activities, the things that are you and that you do for yourself, get shoved to last place which, inevitably, becomes not at all… Continue reading

The awful weight

Why I try to sound important

I have this urge to write first-person things in the plural.

“We really think that…”

Who is we?
There is no we.

It’s just me here. It’s just me responding to the email. It’s just me setting up the meeting. It’s just me answering a question. It’s just me writing a post. It’s just me.

So this WE thing…

Is this the Royal We?
What… Continue reading

Individually alone

The problem with individuality

I go through life, for better or for worse, with myself at the center of it.

I don’t know how any of us can break out of that perspective, the individual perspective, the individual will, the separation of me and not you, of I and not us.

Perhaps that lesson —unity— is the lesson all of humanity must learn before we can move on to anything better than… Continue reading

Building a system

Dependency, systems, and change

What is a culture but a collection of systems commonly shared within a group of people?

What is a system but an organized set of rules, a set of norms, usually arbitrary, arranged and followed for a purpose?

Language is a system. We agree to certain grammatical rules and standards. The symbols we use to convey sound and meaning are arbitrary. The important part is that… Continue reading