About yourself, about life, and about every single person you meet.
Assume that you have done your best, and your best will keep getting better.
Assume that you are loved, and lovely.
Assume that you have something valuable to offer. Assume that you are valuable. You are worthy. You are accepted. You are wanted. You are needed. You are admired. You are understood. You do matter… Continue reading
These two things are not the same. They are very different. But we get them mixed up all the time, and that’s problematic.
Mixing up acceptance and approval creates all sorts of confusion, and misunderstandings, and cycles of abuse.
Acceptance is what we need and want from each other, but all too often we go around asking for approval instead.
And we go around giving out approval
Dear people writing open letters:
We all know that your open letters are not really letters to the “designated recipients.”
We all know that you’re really writing to us, the public, the masses, the mindless scrollers of newsfeed loops, the social media followers, and that you have thoughts. Opinions. Valuable opinions to share about this latest thing, this story, this whatever-the-hell happened.
And you… Continue reading
There are a lot of support needs in life. That’s great. We all need and help each other.
What’s not great is when the support needs turn you into support staff. The needs take all your time. They come first in the priority list. And your core activities, the things that are you and that you do for yourself, get shoved to last place which, inevitably, becomes not at all… Continue reading
I have this urge to write first-person things in the plural.
“We really think that…”
Who is we?
There is no we.
It’s just me here. It’s just me responding to the email. It’s just me setting up the meeting. It’s just me answering a question. It’s just me writing a post. It’s just me.
So this WE thing…
Is this the Royal We?
What… Continue reading
I don’t want to feel alone as a way of life.
But sometimes feeling alone can be good.
Wanted or unwanted, the feeling of aloneness can help us be more creative. It can help us break out of a rut. It can help us leave the pack behind. It can help us start to figure out who we really are.
Feeling alone can force you to find
I go through life, for better or for worse, with myself at the center of it.
I don’t know how any of us can break out of that perspective, the individual perspective, the individual will, the separation of me and not you, of I and not us.
Perhaps that lesson —unity— is the lesson all of humanity must learn before we can move on to anything better than… Continue reading
What is a culture but a collection of systems commonly shared within a group of people?
What is a system but an organized set of rules, a set of norms, usually arbitrary, arranged and followed for a purpose?
Language is a system. We agree to certain grammatical rules and standards. The symbols we use to convey sound and meaning are arbitrary. The important part is that… Continue reading