We seek approval.
(See here and here and here and here.)
We often seek approval at the expense of connection:
- I do something that Person A will approve, meaning that Person B will not approve
- I identify as part of THIS group, and that ruins my chances (mostly) of connecting with people in THAT group
- I pursue the approval of
Dear people writing open letters:
We all know that your open letters are not really letters to the “designated recipients.”
We all know that you’re really writing to us, the public, the masses, the mindless scrollers of newsfeed loops, the social media followers, and that you have thoughts. Opinions. Valuable opinions to share about this latest thing, this story, this whatever-the-hell happened.
And you… Continue reading
I have this urge to write first-person things in the plural.
“We really think that…”
Who is we?
There is no we.
It’s just me here. It’s just me responding to the email. It’s just me setting up the meeting. It’s just me answering a question. It’s just me writing a post. It’s just me.
So this WE thing…
Is this the Royal We?
What… Continue reading
I go through life, for better or for worse, with myself at the center of it.
I don’t know how any of us can break out of that perspective, the individual perspective, the individual will, the separation of me and not you, of I and not us.
Perhaps that lesson —unity— is the lesson all of humanity must learn before we can move on to anything better than… Continue reading
You are not the odd one out.
You are not the only one who gets it.
You are not all alone.
You are not broken, damaged, useless, or flawed. No, you’re not perfect either.
You have been hurt, but you are not broken.
You have lived through pain, but you are not damaged.
You have made mistakes, but you are not useless.
You have stared… Continue reading