There’s something that bothers me about the “I don’t want to see this” Facebook option.
There’s a cost to filtering out everything that makes me uncomfortable. There’s real arrogance at the idea of clicking a button to take away what I don’t want to see. I pretend to make it go away, but it doesn’t. It’s still there. I’m just not acknowledging its existence anymore. I’m removing my attention… Continue reading
Being able to consistently control or stifle your anger is not a sign that you’re emotionally healthy.
It’s not a sign that you don’t have much of a temper, or that you don’t care, or that you’re super mature.
It’s a sign that you’ve learned, one way or another, to exercise great restraint over how you outwardly express your anger.
Sometimes this restraint is good.
It’s… Continue reading
I’ve been thinking about how often, as parents, we do most of our doing at this level we consider “above” our kids.
We don’t mean it in a rude or superior way, just that we’re all busy doing adult stuff and they’re in their kid world. Sometimes we bring them up into our adult world (let’s have a nice dinner out, let’s sit down and work on this thing… Continue reading
I used to go out to the edge of the yard where we had a tire swing hanging from a huge old oak tree. It felt far away from everyone, and I would swing and make up songs for hours.
It seemed like hours, all alone, the lift and fall of the swing, the almost dizzy feeling, the disconnect, and the singing.
One day I heard our sweet… Continue reading
Part 1. Spend your normal amount of time on social media today.
Right before you go to sleep, note your feelings about humanity on a scale of 1 – 10, with 1 being “would exterminate most” and 10 being “humanity is wonderful.”
YOU HAVE TO BE HONEST OR THIS WON’T WORK.
You can’t mark down what you wish you felt, or what you want to feel, or… Continue reading
And help you justify those excuses. And give you ideas for some more.
We don’t want to make people feel bad. Really.
And some of those excuses are legitimate, right? It’s nicer to agree. Sympathize. Give out pats on the back.
Why rock the boat? It creates so much drama. So we don’t call each other out on our whiny excuses. We nod and smile at… Continue reading