Suggested rules for social engagement

Optional, of course, but helpful.

1. Be careful with your Yes.

 A yes is an agreement. It’s a contract, and it’s a good idea to be careful – even hesitant – of who and what you attach yourself to in verbal contract. Casual agreement can be construed as you making a commitment when perhaps that’s not what you intend.

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The baseline is respect

Every time I run across this little quote, I love it:
Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority”

and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t… Continue reading

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You are not broken

You are not the odd one out.
You are not the only one who gets it.
You are not all alone.

You are not broken, damaged, useless, or flawed. No, you’re not perfect either.

You have been hurt, but you are not broken.

You have lived through pain, but you are not damaged.

You have made mistakes, but you are not useless.

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