We’re all children

I had a conversation with my Dad when I was just about to graduate from college. I’ll never forget it. He said, “You know, Annie, I’m in my fifties now, but I still feel, inside, exactly the same as I did at 22.”

And I thought… “Well, darn, here I am at 22 and I guess this is it.”

Now I’m 35 and I still feel pretty much… Continue reading

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How we filter the world

There’s something that bothers me about the “I don’t want to see this” Facebook option.

There’s a cost to filtering out everything that makes me uncomfortable. There’s real arrogance at the idea of clicking a button to take away what I don’t want to see. I pretend to make it go away, but it doesn’t. It’s still there. I’m just not acknowledging its existence anymore. I’m removing my attention… Continue reading

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Your life trajectory

There are two basic directions you can head with your life. Your direction determines your way of life. And a lot of other stuff.

You’re aiming at one or the other, whether you mean to or not. One doesn’t really take any more work than the other. (It just seems like it does.)

You can aim for comfort OR you can aim for growth.

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Research notes: the pursuit of comfort

Topic: the human search (drive, desire) for comfort.

Starting points

  • Comfort-seeking behavior in humans
  • Comfort as a motivation
  • Comfort as related to fear: fear as enabler for survival, then security, then to comfort. How do those things all relate to one another? Diverge from one another?
  • The effect of comfort-seeking
  • Comfort-seeking vs. risk-seeking — is that really a true dichotomy? Because for
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