Gifts from the dead

I had been married for almost three years. We had a baby girl. I went back home to be with Mom for what would be her last month. I spent my days feeding Mara mashed bananas and rocking her to sleep, propping Mom up on pillows and sitting by her while she slept, slipping out of the house with my Dad or sister to grab a milkshake and look at each… Continue reading

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We’re all children

I had a conversation with my Dad when I was just about to graduate from college. I’ll never forget it. He said, “You know, Annie, I’m in my fifties now, but I still feel, inside, exactly the same as I did at 22.”

And I thought… “Well, darn, here I am at 22 and I guess this is it.”

Now I’m 35 and I still feel pretty much… Continue reading

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Clutter

a. Things you have no use for; things which are just there. Mental or physical, psychic or tangible: unnecessary, unhelpful, often harmful though in a slow, creeping, insidious way that you might not notice.

b. Different than mess. Mess is produced by making, creating, exploring, discovering, playing, working, learning… You know, living. Mess is a natural byproduct of life. Mess is the stack of books you’ve read or want… Continue reading

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Some things to remember

1. Everybody’s version of success is different.

When someone says they have success at something, find out what success means in their definition.

They might mean, “I make a lot of money doing this,” and you might mean, “I am really happy doing this.”

If you want to learn from someone, you need to have a shared definition of success. Otherwise they might teach you all they… Continue reading

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