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Start assuming the best

About yourself, about life, and about every single person you meet.

Assume that you have done your best, and your best will keep getting better.

Assume that you are loved, and lovely.

Assume that you have something valuable to offer. Assume that you are valuable. You are worthy. You are accepted. You are wanted. You are needed. You are admired. You are understood. You do matter… Continue reading

Writing vs content

Content, writing, and gates

There’s writing and then there’s content.

It’s an unfortunate distinction. It sets up a dichotomy that doesn’t have to be there. It creates a content versus writing situation, in which “real writers” look down on content creation as a lower, commercialized activity. This isn’t new. Real writers have always been looking down on commercial writing, then remembering they have to eat, and then rethinking their standards.

When I… Continue reading

Stop Yr Controlling, People!

Book notes: Controlling People by Patricia Evans

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This is an important book. Also, before you get the wrong idea, here’s the subtitle:
How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal With People Who Try to Control You

This book is not about how you can learn to control people. (That’s The Prince by Machiavelli.)

It’s about people who… Continue reading

Mom and baby Mara

Gifts from the dead

I had been married for almost three years. We had a baby girl. I went back home to be with Mom for what would be her last month. I spent my days feeding Mara mashed bananas and rocking her to sleep, propping Mom up on pillows and sitting by her while she slept, slipping out of the house with my Dad or sister to grab a milkshake and look at each… Continue reading