Fear is a primary motivation for a lot of our behaviors.
Sometimes that’s good. Fear is a functional response, and it serves a purpose.
The problem is that fear – this important, built-in alert system— has no off setting. That’s good, because you can’t always predict danger, and you need your alert system to be on when threats arise unexpectedly. (After all, if you know a threat is… Continue reading
If you’re wanting to be happier, to regain control of your life, you’ve got to quit adding to the junk pile.
The junk pile is the opposite of the real You.
And if you want more joy, more power, and more freedom, you need less junk and more You.
You figure out, of all the inputs in your life, what’s feeding the real… Continue reading
The toughest part of writing is starting.
Staring at the blank page, trying to remember all your brilliant ideas. You had so many of them last night, during your kid’s piano recital… and again, during that totally unproductive meeting at work, but now…
Where have all the ideas gone?
Ideas are ephemeral unless they’re captured.
So you should capture them, via any method handy, when you… Continue reading
Nothing is really neutral.
Every input or output of your life is influencing you one way or another.
However, some of the items have such negligible influence that messing around with them is a waste of energy.
You’re not going to feel their effect, not very much, maybe not for a long while.
There is a time and a place for assessing and messing… Continue reading
Much of your stress starts with either lack of a plan or a bad plan.
Lack of a plan means that you have no (known, valid) reason to say no. Requests, demands, suggestions, obligations, interruptions come at you. You stutter and stammer and end up obligating yourself to 157 things you don’t want to do.
But without a plan, you have no direction. You have not claimed… Continue reading
If you feel like your life is out of control, try this:
Step 1: Take inventory
To understand what is actually happening in your life – which is a step you need to take in order to take control of what is happening in your life – take inventory. Do this first, before you make any changes. Until you take inventory, you don’t know what you need to change… Continue reading