Some things you need to know about fear

Fear is a primary motivation for a lot of our behaviors.

Sometimes that’s good. Fear is a functional response, and it serves a purpose.

The problem is that fear – this important, built-in alert system— has no off setting. That’s good, because you can’t always predict danger, and you need your alert system to be on when threats arise unexpectedly. (After all, if you know a threat is… Continue reading

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The in-between tools of writing

The toughest part of writing is starting.

Staring at the blank page, trying to remember all your brilliant ideas. You had so many of them last night, during your kid’s piano recital… and again, during that totally unproductive meeting at work, but now…

Where have all the ideas gone?

Ideas are ephemeral unless they’re captured.

So you should capture them, via any method handy, when you… Continue reading

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Make a better plan

Much of your stress starts with either lack of a plan or a bad plan.

Lack of a plan means that you have no (known, valid) reason to say no. Requests, demands, suggestions, obligations, interruptions come at you. You stutter and stammer and end up obligating yourself to 157 things you don’t want to do.

But without a plan, you have no direction. You have not claimed… Continue reading

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Taking inventory (inputs and outputs)

If you feel like your life is out of control, try this:

Step 1: Take inventory

To understand what is actually happening in your life – which is a step you need to take in order to take control of what is happening in your life – take inventory. Do this first, before you make any changes. Until you take inventory, you don’t know what you need to change… Continue reading

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