Expanding and Contracting

What gets the most space in your life?

(Space can mean a lot of things.)

What part is expanding?

If the fight for space is between the real You and the ego (and it always is), then as the ego (a.k.a junk pile) expands, the real You contracts.

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Foundational desires

This was a Poet –
It is That
Distills amazing sense
From Ordinary Meanings

– Emily Dickinson
What is the real reason that you want something?

If you distill each of your wants to the “the essential meaning or most important aspect,” you’ll get to something important: the foundational desires, the simple, core-deep basis of each want/need/impulse. The desire that’s coming from the real You

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Suggested rules for social engagement

Optional, of course, but helpful.

1. Be careful with your Yes.

 A yes is an agreement. It’s a contract, and it’s a good idea to be careful – even hesitant – of who and what you attach yourself to in verbal contract. Casual agreement can be construed as you making a commitment when perhaps that’s not what you intend.

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