Your life trajectory

There are two basic directions you can head with your life. Your direction determines your way of life. And a lot of other stuff.

You’re aiming at one or the other, whether you mean to or not. One doesn’t really take any more work than the other. (It just seems like it does.)

You can aim for comfort OR you can aim for growth.

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Quit being support staff

There are a lot of support needs in life. That’s great. We all need and help each other.

What’s not great is when the support needs turn you into support staff. The needs take all your time. They come first in the priority list. And your core activities, the things that are you and that you do for yourself, get shoved to last place which, inevitably, becomes not at all… Continue reading

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Pack mentality

Remember the “Big Dogs” business blip of the ’90s? [Hey, they’re still around.] T-shirts, mugs, posters. Those were some motivational big dogs.

They said things like, “If you can’t run with the big dogs, stay on the porch.”

It was a (not so subtly) implied question: are you going to be a leader or just another nobody in the pack?

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Why I try to sound important

I have this urge to write first-person things in the plural.

“We really think that…”

Who is we?
There is no we.

It’s just me here. It’s just me responding to the email. It’s just me setting up the meeting. It’s just me answering a question. It’s just me writing a post. It’s just me.

So this WE thing…

Is this the Royal We?
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It’s okay to feel alone

I don’t want to feel alone as a way of life.

But sometimes feeling alone can be good.

Wanted or unwanted, the feeling of aloneness can help us be more creative. It can help us break out of a rut. It can help us leave the pack behind. It can help us start to figure out who we really are.

Feeling alone can force you to find

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