Part 1. Spend your normal amount of time on social media today.
Right before you go to sleep, note your feelings about humanity on a scale of 1 – 10, with 1 being “would exterminate most” and 10 being “humanity is wonderful.”
YOU HAVE TO BE HONEST OR THIS WON’T WORK.
You can’t mark down what you wish you felt, or what you want to feel, or… Continue reading
These two things are not the same. They are very different. But we get them mixed up all the time, and that’s problematic.
Mixing up acceptance and approval creates all sorts of confusion, and misunderstandings, and cycles of abuse.
Acceptance is what we need and want from each other, but all too often we go around asking for approval instead.
And we go around giving out approval
I have this idea that’s been floating around in my mind, that there are two levels to the world we live in:
- Level 1: the most obvious level, the physical world with all its systems and structures, economic exchanges, and social rules.
- Level 2: the higher (or deeper?) level, the place where we see each other for who we really are, we see what’s really going on
At least my faith doesn’t look brave.
My faith looks like me being terrified.
“It will all work out.”
“It’s going to be okay.”
“Look for the good!”
These are things people say to help you have faith. At least that’s the idea.
I think most of the time people say these things because they’re uncomfortable with the raw, broken, messy, rough reality of… Continue reading
We seek approval.
(See here and here and here and here.)
We often seek approval at the expense of connection:
- I do something that Person A will approve, meaning that Person B will not approve
- I identify as part of THIS group, and that ruins my chances (mostly) of connecting with people in THAT group
- I pursue the approval of
It’s one thing to be a little crazed because of your unique creative inner self.
It’s another entirely to go crazy because someone else’s going-doing-scheming-dreaming-unpredictability-inner burn sent you there.
You want to maintain stability and guard your own creative space while also allowing this important person in your life to have freedom, encouragement, and support.
Let’s start with two ground rules.
1. The fact that someone in